LGBTQ

The greatest need of LGBTQ youth is positive and affirming support from the people around them. The goal of this page is to offer information, ideas, and support that transform every space in our communities into a SAFE space where every youth, regardless of sexual orientation and/or gender identity, may simply BE...happy, whole, healthy, and loved.

Mental Illness and LGBTQ Youth - What's the Connection?

There was a time in this country when homosexuality was mistakenly classified as a mental illness. Extensive empirical research came to show that this assumption was wrong. Homosexuality is not a mental disorder and in 1973 it was removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).

There is, however, an unfortunate correlation between mental illness and LGBTQ youth. Due to significant physical abuse, verbal harassment, and the disapproval or lack of support from family and friends, LGBTQ youth are at a very high risk of mental health concerns and self-destructive behaviors.

Together, we can change the story for LGBTQ youth.

Providers

If you work with young people, you probably work with young people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questions their sexual orientation or gender identity (LGBTQ). You have the responsibility to serve these youth in your care with competence and compassion. Here are a few ways to start.

• Use intake forms that include questions about sexual orientation/gender identity.
• Ask questions in a way that avoids implicit assumptions about sexual orientation or gender identity. (e.g., Ask if he or she is dating someone, rather than asking if she has a boyfriend.)
• Know what to do when a youth self-discloses his/her sexual or gender identity. (e.g., Offer support, engage in conversation if the youth wants to, maintain privacy, and locate appropriate services.)
• Call youth by their preferred first name and pronoun in accordance with their gender identity or expression.
• Most importantly, expand your knowledge of LGBTQ issues. Visiting this site is a great start! Make sure to check out the Facts and Stats, Online Resources and Definitions.

Family

As a family member, you may move back and forth between acceptance and denial. But don't underestimate the importance of your support.

Show appreciation for the strength and courage it takes to come out. Use questions like these to help guide your conversation.

• How long have you known?
• Is there someone special?
• Has it been hard for you carrying this secret?
• Is there some way I can help?
• Have I ever offended you unknowingly?

Expand your knowledge of LGBTQ issues. Visiting this site is a great start! Make sure to check out the Facts and Stats, Online Resources and Definitions.

Understand the importance of your support. Ideal family responses to an LGBTQ youth who has come out include:

• Supporting gender expression
• Welcoming LGBTQ friends/partner
• Believing in a happy future for the youth/family member
• Connecting them with LGBT role models
• Advocating on behalf of the youth

Friends

When young people "come out" or are questioning their sexuality, it can be a scary and lonely road. Being a supportive friend as they make this journey can make all the difference.

Show appreciation for the strength and courage it takes to come out. Offer support, assure confidentiality and listen, listen, listen! Use questions like these to help guide your conversation.

• How long have you known?
• Is there someone special?
• Has it been hard for you carrying this secret?
• Is there some way I can help?
• Have I ever offended you unknowingly?

Expand your knowledge of LGBTQ issues. Visiting this site is a great start! Make sure to check out the Facts and Stats, Online Resources and Definitions.

Become an ally. An ally is someone who actively supports Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning (LGBTQ) people and works side by side with them to achieve equality.

Think of ideas on how you can make a difference in your school and community. If your school doesn't already have one, start a Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA).

Respond to Anti-LGBT Bias - Name It, Claim It, and Stop It!

• Name it: When you witness bias, call the offending party on it by saying, "That term is not cool," or "Using words like that is hurtful and offensive."
• Claim it: Make it your issue. Say, "People I care about are gay, and I don't like to hear those words."
• Stop it: Make a request for the behavior to stop by saying, "Please don't use those words," or "Cut it out, please."

Youth

Opening up to the possibility that you may be gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or even just questioning means opening up to the idea that you're on a path that's your own. No matter what, you have the right to be out, safe and respected in your school and community.

Coming Out

There is no one right or wrong way to come out. It's a lifelong process of being ever more open and true with yourself and others - done in your own way and in your own time. The Human Right's Campaign developed a Coming Out Brochure (PDF) for planning your coming out conversations with yourself, family and friends. It also provides basic information and resources about gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.

Reaching Out

No matter where you are in your journey, make sure you find a source of support. A friend, a teacher, a counselor, a family member-someone who will be there to provide a safe space for you to be open about your feelings and honest about who you are. If you don't know where to start, check out our list of local resources who can help you.

Know Your Rights - LGBTQ Youth in Care

You deserve support and respect from your caseworker, foster parents and other adults in your life. You are also entitled to receive nonjudgmental services. You have the right to be heard, to feel supported and to be safe and free from harassment based on your sexual orientation or gender identity. A Lambda Legal/CWLA join initiative created Information for LGBTQ Youth in Care (PDF).

Hotlines

National Runaway Switchboard

1-800-RUNAWAY or 1-800-786-2929

Call the National Runaway Switchboard if you are a teenager who is thinking of running from home, if you have a friend who has run and is looking for help, or if you are a runaway ready to go home.

Trevor Helpline

1-866-4-U-Trevor or 1-866-488-7386

The Trevor Project operates the nations only 24/7 suicide & crisis prevention helpline for gay and questioning youth. If you or a friend are feeling lost or alone call The Trevor Helpline.

GLBT NATIONAL YOUTH TALKLINE

1-800-246-PRIDE (1-800-246-7743)

The GLBT National Youth Talkline provides telephone and email peer-counseling, as well as factual information and local resources for cities and towns across the United States.

Facts and Stats Tool Kit

Unfounded myths and stereotypes about LGBTQ people have created many misconceptions. The first step toward care and support is to understand the basic facts about LGBTQ youth and the issues they face. Lambda Legal and the Child Welfare League of America provide Getting Down to Basics - a tool kit with practical tips and information to ensure LGBTQ young people in care receive the support and services they deserve.

• Basic Facts About Being LGBTQ (PDF)
• Families Supporting an LGBTQ Child (PDF)
• Caseworkers with LGBTQ Clients (PDF)
• Foster Parents Caring for LGBTQ Youth (PDF)
• Congregate Care Providers Working with LGBTQ Youth (PDF)
• Attorneys, Guardians ad Litem & Advocates Representing LGBTQ Youth (PDF)
• Working with Transgender Youth (PDF)
• Keeping LGBTQ Youth Safe in Juvenile Justice & Delinquency Placements (PDF)
• Working with Homeless LGBTQ Youth (PDF)
• Faith-Based Providers Working with LGBTQ Youth (PDF)
• Basic LGBTQ Policies, Training & Services for Child Welfare Agencies (PDF)
• LGBTQ Youth Resources (PDF)
• LGBTQ Youth Risk Data (PDF)

Online Resources

Local

Element Mental Health Services

www.elementmentalhealth.vpweb.com

Element Mental Health Services seeks to support, connect, and educate the diverse populations of Central Minnesota through providing mental health and chemical dependency services. Element provides safe space within which individuals, couples, and families can support and strengthen their relationships.

SCSU LGBT Resource Center

www.stcloudstate.edu/lgbt

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Resource Center at St. Cloud State University is dedicated to providing an inclusive and educational environment for all SCSU students, staff, faculty, alumni, allies, and the community at large.

PFLAG

Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG) is a national non-profit organization with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States.

Email the Local Chapter: pflagstcloud@gmail.com

Regional

OUTFRONT Minnesota

www.outfront.org

OutFront Minnesota's mission is to make our state a place where GLBT Minnesotans have the freedom, power, and confidence to make the best choices for their own lives.

National

Family Acceptance Project

familyproject.sfsu.edu

The Family Acceptance Project is a community research, intervention and education initiative to study the impact of family acceptance and rejection on the health, mental health and well-being of lesbian, gay and bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth.

GLSEN

www.glsen.org

The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.

Lambda Legal

www.lambdalegal.org

Lambda Legal is a national organization committed to achieving full recognition of the civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender people and those with HIV through impact litigation, education and public policy work.

Matthew Shepard Foundation

www.matthewshepard.org

The Matthew Shepard Foundation was founded by Dennis and Judy Shepard in memory of their 21-year old son, Matthew, who was murdered in an anti-gay hate crime in Wyoming in October 1998. Created to honor Matthew in a manner that was appropriate to his dreams, beliefs and aspirations, the Foundation seeks to "Replace Hate with Understanding, Compassion & Acceptance" through its varied educational, outreach and advocacy programs and by continuing to tell Matthew's story.

The Trevor Project

www.thetrevorproject.org

The Trevor Project is the leading national organization focused on crisis and suicide prevention efforts among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth. The Trevor Project operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBTQ youth. If you or a friend are feeling lost or alone, call The Trevor Helpline. There is hope, there is help.

Definitions

Ally: Any non-GLBTQ person who supports and stands up for the rights of GLBTQ people.

Bisexual: A person who is attracted to both men and women.

Closeted/"In the Closet": Describes a person who keeps his/her sexual orientation or gender identity a secret from some or all people.

Coming Out: A life-long process of acknowledging one's sexual orientation and/or gender identity to one's self and/or other people.

Gay: A man whose physical, romantic, emotional and/or spiritual attraction is to other men. Although this term is typically used to describe men, it can be used for either sex (e.g. gay man, gay woman, gay person).

Gender Expression: The manner in which a person outwardly expresses his/her gender.

Gender Identity: A person's inner sense of self as male, female, or somewhere in between. Most people develop a gender identity that corresponds to their biological sex, but many do not.

GSA: An acronym for Gay-Straight Alliance, which is a club for GLBTQ students and allies.

Homosexual: A clinical term for people who are attracted to members of the same sex.

Homophobia: Fear of lesbians and gay men.

Lesbian: A woman whose physical, romantic, emotional and/or spiritual attraction is to other women.

LGBTQ: Acronym for "lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning."

Openly Gay / Lesbian / Bisexual / Transgender: A person who publicly acknowledges his/her sexual orientation or gender identity.

PFLAG: An acronym for Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, which is a national non-profit organization with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States.

Queer: An umbrella term used by some LGBTQ youth to refer to themselves.

Questioning: A person who is unsure about his/her sexual orientation or gender identity.

Sexual Orientation: A person's attraction to members of the same and/or opposite sex. Includes gay, lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual.

Transgender: A person whose gender expression at least sometimes runs contrary to what is generally expected of his/her biological sex.